*162 - My Perfectionism

I took the test tat i posted in my last post about perfectionism... and i scored 47 :D Having a balance between perfection and my ability of achieving it... However, during the test i do realize something bad...

"People expect more from their loved ones". In fact, this statement is quite true. Its just like your parents will expect a lot more from u as u are their children. The problem i realize is tat i do have perfectionism in my relationship, i expect a lot from my other half.

There's a few questions in the test asking about how satisfied on ur gf/wife and the relationship etc... Then i realize that i recently feel tat she just not doing enough for me... It mayb due to the crisis we had earlier and our trust had been broken, but having too high expectation doesnt seems right too...

I remember my fren said something to me before... Girls feels pressure when the guys keep talking about marriage and future while girls still feel uncertain on the relationship... That's where i went to ask her did she felt so when i got our future plans... Unfortunately the answer is YES...

I'll try my best now to lower my expectation on her... which i think also pressured my dearie a lot... Understanding the fact tat not everyone will do wat u did, managing a relationship without any pressure on both parties mayb just the best way :)

3 comments:

Cai Hong said...

girls feel pressuer but guys do feel pressuer as well if a gurl ask them to marry:)

although i had 3 relationship but seriously i nvr ever think of marriage because i can never never marry if i dont trust a guy so much.

ok la,i mean ppl's heart can change,i stil will have crush on other guys even i have bf,that's why i guess guy wil have crush on other girl as well.

woah ur a nice guy,want to get marry,its a drop of the bucket of guys think this way yeh

XtasyM said...

its been very long years with her, and i used to believe that heart wont change (proved wrong i guess). This is my 5th relationship and the 1st time i thought of marriage only, lol.

it actually depend on the person though. u're a settle down kind of person or otherwise, that's the question.

Had my lifetime planning including marriage and i guess its not going to work out.

Stephen said...

"Girls feels pressure when the guys keep talking about marriage and future while girls still feel uncertain on the relationship" - That is true for my girl too. :D

NeoNuu - Dont Feed Him Too Much :P