*161 - Perfectionism

There's always a story of perfectionism in everywhere we go... Even in our family... Before complaining how high other's expectation on you, did u ever examine yourself how high u put ur expectation on others?

Some people are 100% perfectionist. They demand everything to be in perfect condition... Its ok when its personal, but its NOT OK when u demand and exert pressure on others... Everyone has their own definition for a good piece of work... Some ppl think tat a folio is good enough when it got 5 pages while some demand it to be at least 50 pages... But dont u think its ridiculous to expect 50 pages on small topic folio?

Real life example tat always happens in my university is on the group assignments or lab reports... Due to the fact tat some ppl care about their result so much (others just plain perfectionist for no reason O.o) that they demand a perfect piece of work that most of the time isnt necessary... Many had been complaining on the high expectation of group members that are impossible to meet... Some people may not just be as good as u are...

So how do u handle such situation when ur coursemate did a bad job? Sometimes u just have to guide them... Perhaps give an outline to them, for example, discuss this this this topics in the assignment... It is never feel nice to modify other ppls work without their consent and just because u feel it sucks... Frankly, communication and discussion prior doing the work is essential to ensure the work to be done properly and as near ur expectations...

Be lenient a bit... Try to accept others as they are... And keep ur perfectionism personal... Then im sure everybody can work together happily and learn from mistakes together...

More Readings:
The Problem With People - They're Not Perfect
Overcoming Perfectionism
Perfectionism Test: Try This Test

4 comments:

jfook said...

When I was in first sem, I was so so not used to people simply complete their assignments. I will feel they are pulling our marks down since we are in the same group. But somehow, I get used to it now. We can't expect everyone does things like the way we do. So I just close one eye. LOL. I didn't even give outline or guide them. Cos I think some can't be "cured" one liao. LOL

XtasyM said...

lol... to those tat wil do work if u told them to, then should divide fairly and guide them... If those like just wont do anything one, no choice... even god cant help them if they dont help themselves

2_Xiao 杰 said...

I m 75% perfectionism in work.
others...lolx

XtasyM said...

fair enough for work... perfection also drives a person to work harder :D

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